Hi lovely,

 

For years, I carried stories about myself that felt like facts. Stories about what I could do, what I was good at, and even what kind of woman I was. 

 

Some came from experiences, some from other people, and some I’d simply repeated so often I stopped questioning them.

 

But here’s what I’ve learned: just because a story is familiar doesn’t mean it’s still true.

 

So this week, your ONE THING is simple:

CHANGE THE STORY

We all have stories we tell ourselves.

 

“I’ve never been disciplined.”
“I always give up.”
“I’m not a confident person.”
“I’ve always struggled with my weight.”
“I’m terrible at putting myself first.”

 

Repeat something often enough and eventually it stops sounding like a thought and starts feeling like your identity.

 

But your past behaviour isn’t a life sentence.

 

The woman who made those choices five years ago—or even five months ago—was working with the knowledge, circumstances, confidence and tools she had at the time.

 

You have more now.

 

And as you change physically and emotionally after weight-loss surgery, some of those old stories need updating too.

 

This isn’t about pretending the past didn’t happen.

 

It’s about refusing to let it decide who you get to become next.

 

You are still writing your story.

 

And this week, we’re changing one chapter.

This week’s practice — NOTICE · CHALLENGE · REWRITE

Step 1 — NOTICE

Listen for a story you regularly tell about yourself.

 

Pay particular attention to sentences beginning with:

“I always…”
“I never…”
“I’m just someone who…”
“I’ve never been able to…”

 

Write one down.

 

Don’t judge it. Just get curious about how long you’ve been carrying it.

Step 2 — CHALLENGE

Now ask yourself:

 

“Is this actually true today?”

 

Look for evidence that challenges the old story.

 

If your story is “I always give up,” remind yourself of the things you haven’t given up on.

 

If it’s “I’m not confident,” notice the moments when you have spoken up, tried something new or backed yourself.

 

Find the evidence of change.

Step 3 — REWRITE

Now create a story that reflects the woman you’re becoming.

 

Instead of:

“I always give up.”

Try:

“I’ve given up before, but I’m learning how to keep showing up.”

 

Instead of:

“I’m not confident.”

Try:

“My confidence is growing every time I do something that scares me.”

 

Make your new story believable, supportive and forward-looking.

 

Then start repeating that one.

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A small reflective coaching question

If I stopped defining myself by who I’ve been, 

what might I start believing is possible 

for the woman I’m becoming?

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Your weekly mantra:

A note from me.

Your past deserves compassion, not control over your future.

 

You don’t have to deny where you’ve been or pretend every old story was wrong. Some were true once.

But you’re allowed to change.

 

You’re allowed to surprise yourself.

 

And you’re absolutely allowed to stop introducing yourself—to yourself—as the woman you used to be.

 

Give the next version of you room to emerge.

Helen xo

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