Hi lovely,

 

This week’s ONE THING is soft… but incredibly powerful.


And if I’m honest — it’s something most women find far harder than counting calories or hitting protein goals.

 

After weight-loss surgery, your body can change fast — but how you feel about yourself often lags behind.


Years of criticism, disappointment, dieting, and shame don’t disappear just because the scale moved.

 

So this week, your ONE THING is to:

WRITE YOURSELF A LOVE LETTER

Not a fluffy affirmation.


Not a “manifesting” exercise.


A real, grounded, honest letter — from you to you — that recognises what you’ve been through and who you are becoming.

 

Because the way you relate to yourself now shapes your:

  • confidence
  • self-worth
  • motivation
  • and your ability to keep moving forward after surgery

Many women treat themselves with a level of harshness they would never use with someone they love.


You might push, judge, minimise, or dismiss your own effort — even while doing something incredibly brave.

 

Your inner voice might quietly say:
“I should be doing better.”
“I’m still not good enough.”
“I’ve failed before — I’ll probably fail again.”
“I don’t really deserve to feel proud yet.”

 

But healing and long-term success don’t come from pressure.


They come from self-trust.

 

And self-trust grows when you learn to speak to yourself with warmth, honesty, and respect.

 

“People don’t stay consistent with goals they use to punish themselves. They stay consistent with goals that feel like self-care.”

This week’s practice — Write · Feel · Keep

This isn’t about pretending everything is perfect.


It’s about acknowledging what you’ve survived, what you’re doing now, and what you’re working toward.

Step 1 — Write

Take 10 minutes. No editing. No overthinking.


Start your letter with:

“Dear me…”

 

Then write to yourself as if you were someone you truly love.

 

You might include:

  • what you’ve been through
  • what you’re proud of
  • how hard this journey has been
  • what you admire about yourself
  • what you hope for your future

If you get stuck, try these prompts:
“I’m proud of you for…”
“I know this hasn’t been easy because…”
“I love the way you…”
“You didn’t give up when…”
“I promise to…”

Step 2 — Feel

Read it back — slowly.


Notice what comes up in your body.


Emotion, resistance, tears, discomfort — all of it is welcome.

 

That reaction is information.


It shows you where you’ve been withholding compassion from yourself.

Step 3 — Keep

Don’t throw it away.


Put it somewhere you can come back to:

  • in your phone
  • in your journal
  • in your bedside drawer

Read it on the days you feel behind.


Read it when the scale messes with your head.


Read it when the old stories try to creep back in.

A small reflective coaching exercise

Ask yourself:

“If I truly believed this letter… how would I treat myself today?”

 

Would you eat differently?


Rest differently?


Speak differently?


Move differently?

 

That answer tells you everything.

Your weekly mantra:

A note from me.

So many women think confidence comes after they feel successful.


In reality, confidence grows when you start treating yourself like someone who is already worthy of care, patience, and respect.

 

You don’t have to earn that.


You already deserve it.

Helen xo

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