Hi lovely,

 

This week’s ONE THING is simple — but for many women, it’s surprisingly uncomfortable.

 

After weight-loss surgery, we work so hard on habits, food choices, movement, protein, water, vitamins…

 

But we don’t always work on the relationship we have with ourselves.

 

So this week, your ONE THING is to:

BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND

Not in a fluffy way.


Not in a “positive vibes only” way.

 

In a grounded, honest, grown-woman way.

 

Because here’s something I’ve learned — both professionally and personally:

The way you treat yourself determines how safe you feel in your own body.

 

And many women are incredibly loyal, generous, encouraging friends to others…
but harsh, impatient, and critical with themselves.

 

You would never say to a friend:
• “You’re hopeless.”
• “You’ve ruined everything.”
• “You’ll probably fail again.”
• “You should be further along.”

 

But you might say those things to yourself without even noticing.

 

And that voice?


It doesn’t build confidence.
It erodes it.

 

Being your own best friend doesn’t mean letting yourself off the hook.


It means holding yourself accountable with kindness.


It means backing yourself.


It means refusing to abandon yourself on hard days.

This week’s practice — Listen · Respond · Support

Step 1 — Listen

Pay attention to your inner voice this week.

 

Especially when:

  • the scale doesn’t move
  • your clothes fit differently
  • you overeat
  • you compare yourself
  • you feel tired or emotional

Notice the tone.

 

Would you speak that way to someone you love?

Step 2 — Respond

Instead of letting the first harsh thought run the show, answer it — like a best friend would.

 

For example:

 

“I’ve messed everything up.”
➜ “It was one moment. You’re still committed.”

 

“I should be further along.”
➜ “You’re progressing in your own time.”

 

“I look awful.”
➜ “Your body has carried you through so much. Show it some respect.”

 

Not fake.
Not forced.
Just fair.

Step 3 — Support

Ask yourself daily:


“If I were truly on my own side today — what would I choose?”

 

Maybe you:

  • eat in a way that supports you
  • rest instead of push
  • move because it feels good
  • stop spiralling and reset

Best friends don’t bully.


They support growth.

 

A small reflective coaching question

 

If you treated yourself the way you treat your closest friend…
what would change this week?

 

Your tone?
Your patience?
Your consistency?

 

Self-trust grows when you feel safe with yourself.

A small reflective coaching exercise

Take 2 minutes today — no overthinking.

 

Write down one situation the last week where you were hard on yourself.

 

Then ask yourself:

What did I say to myself in that moment?

Would I say that to someone I love?

 

Now rewrite that moment — as if you were speaking to your closest friend.

What would you say instead?
What tone would you use?

 

Keep it somewhere visible.

 

Come back to it the next time that voice shows up.

Your weekly mantra:

A note from me.

You don’t need another critic in your life.


You’ve had enough of that.

 

What changes everything — especially after surgery — is learning to stay on your own side.

 

To encourage yourself.
To steady yourself.
To back yourself.

 

You deserve that kind of loyalty — from you.

Helen xo

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